“Your super subconscious mind attracts into your life people, ideas and resources in harmony with your dominant thoughts. It brings you everything you need to succeed.” Flight Plan by Brian Tracy.

In times like these it is easy to allow our minds to fall into the trap of negativity.  We see recession on the news, online, in the newspaper and see it all around us.  Companies closing down, people being unemployed and the atmosphere of lack is filtering its way in.  We can ourselves begin to wonder whether we will make it.

The key is shifting our focus on what we do want, what we want to achieve and taking it day by day.  Decide now, what your most important goal is?  If you could miraculously change one thing today, what would that be?   This would be your right now goal.  Keep this goal as your dominant thought and point of focus.  Make a list of things that you would need to do to help you achieve this goal and each day do something from that list that will take you one step closer to achieving that goal.

Romany Thresher

Direct Assist Online

5 Responses to What is your focus?

  • Hi Romany

    Your blog should stimulate a lot of thought and debate – can I kick off? ;)

    The cynic in me says it’s easy for someone like Brian Tracy, who would appear to be set for life, to come up with well-meaning ideas to help those struggling in the current economic climate, and is likely to see an upturn in sales of his products as a result.

    The realist in me observes that the only area where there’s buoyancy in the UK seems to be Public Service (we won’t go there ;)). Other than that, every industry in the private sector, hindered by the banks’ belated caution about lending, seems to be battening down the hatches to survive.

    The optimist in me says: You’re right about positivity versus negativity and what we draw to us. Yet I believe it needs more than a setting goals approach which, let’s face it, has been around for years and, if it worked that well for enough people, why the mess many find themselves in today?

    From conversations I’ve had recently a lot of people are hurting and struggling. How the heck do they know what that one goal should be?

    “I wanna be a millionaire” (most I ever made in one year so far has been £28,000)
    “I want to make sure my family is provided for” (er, what exactly would that entail?)

    So, the revolutionary in me (moi? Revolutionary – I’m supposed to be more than slightly right wing) says: The old ways haven’t worked terribly well for most, have they? So shouldn’t we be looking at alternatives?

    Maybe ‘me’ is okay so long as it has a ‘we’ and ‘extended us’ focus as well?


  • Linda

    Many thanks for your comment.

    What I know is that I am living from personal experiences. I spent many years walking around with my head in the sand not setting any goals because I did not think it was important. I also spend a few years thinking negatively and yet when I was 20 I was so positive about live and I felt I could conquer the world. At age 23 I had no job, no major form of income and yet through focusing on wanting to own my own property I managed to do this at the age of 23.

    I also know that from not having a clear end result of what you want out of life you cannot begin to plan or even move forward. I also know that because I did not have clear goals about my life that I have not achieved what I should’ve achieved because on deep inspection into my life I realise now, I chose the wrong jobs, I made a few bad choices and all because I thought that authors like Napoleon Hill, Robert Kiyosaki, Donald Trump and many others are just out there to make sales. (aren’t we all).

    One cannot expect to be a millionaire when you cannot even save £50. So if you want financial freedom you need to start at the beginning: If you are in debt then your goal would be to get out of debt. Learn everything you need to learn about getting out of debt. Start budgeting and finding ways of minimising the debt that was created.

    If your goal is to find a job, then you need to think about the job you want to have, the salary you want to earn and take the necessary steps in finding that job.

    Nothing is easy but my life has become a lot easier to deal with when I know what my goal is. I also have a clear direction so the decisions I make now is based on the goal that I want to achieve. Honestly I am reaching my goals a lot quicker than I ever did before.

    Truth is you have nothing to loose by trying. The bottom line is choice and making the decision to change or achieve the goal you want. If you are wanting to be a millionaire then ask yourself: “What are you doing today that is helping you become a millionaire? What sacrifices are you making? What skills are you learning to help you achieve that goal?

    If you look really hard at what you are doing you will discover that you are not actually doing all you can do to achieve this goal.

    Romany Thresher

  • Hi Romany

    This is certainly true. When I work with people turning around their sales fortunes, a key element is to get them to focus on what they want and not what they fear. When one’s pre-dominant thought is on what will happen if I do not earn enough money to pay the mortgage then its tends to cause a downward spiral. You will not believe how subtle and yet effective making the shift is ….or maybe you would!!

    The other focus change that has a dramatic impact is narrowing the focus. I ask people what they specialise in and they give me a laundy list. The logic is ‘Cast your net wide and you will catch plenty of fish’ Unfortunately the opposite is true. The more of a specialist a small business becomes (ie the more focused they are) the more successful they become.

    Why focus works is, quite frankly, irrelevant. The fact is, it does work and when you lose focus it is hard to help one’s self to restore it

    Best wishes

    Richard White
    The UK’s leading free sales training resource for non-sales people

  • Hi Romany

    I think you’re right and that we’re actually in agreement.

    And I believe three things combined have a huge influence.

    Phil Gosling, a respected home publisher, tells a story about someone in a travel agency:

    Customer: “I want to go somewhere warm and sunny.”
    Agent: “Certainly, sir. Where do you particularly fancy?”
    Customer: “Oh, I haven’t really thought about it, as long as it’s warm and sunny…”
    Agent: “And when were you thinking of going?”
    Customer: “I don’t really know, it doesn’t matter, as long as it’s warm and sunny while I’m there…”

    The point here, as we can see, is that the goal is too woolly. It needs to be much more specific.

    The next is that it needs to be important to the individual, not “it would be nice if…”, or “I suppose I should…”. My partner’s daughter decided at the age of about five that she was going to be a doctor. Not that she wanted to be – she was going to be – and she didn’t know anything about words like “vision” or “goals”.

    And the third, as you rightly say, is that you have to be prepared to focus on it, work for it and make sacrifices. Said daughter was accepted by the best high school in her area at age eleven and, once there researched which subjects would get her into the college of her choice and majored in them.

    She discovered that the best ones factored in how well-rounded students were into their selection process as well as their academic grades so, as she loved music and competitive sport, she strove to combine both with consistently working hard at her academic subjects.

    Despite contracting glandular fever (which sapped her energy and concentration) in her penultimate year at high school she passed her final exams and was accepted by her first choice medical college.

    She continued setting goals for herself throughout medical school, over and above the necessary standard to qualify as a medical practitioner. And now she is not only a doctor but also a qualified surgeon.

    Without putting labels on any of it she had her eyes totally focused on her vision and her goals to attain it. She continuously devised objectives and tactics to reach the next goal and, even when times got really tough, she didn’t waver from her path.

    (By the way, she also rowed for her medical school [as in using oars, not arguing], and is an accomplished piano, saxophone and clarinet player).


  • Mark Perl says:

    Romany I’m with you.

    I like to keep it REALLY simple, ‘cos we’re famous for making EVERYTHING complicated.

    Two key points:

    1st:- If you’re happy with what you’ve got, keep doing what you’re doing.
    If not, then you HAVE to change the input – SIMPLE

    2nd:- What you think about & thank about, comes about ! – SIMPLE

    In answer to Linda’s comment on the efficacy of goal setting – most subscribe to this on an intellectual level but few if they were being honest, have the discipline to actually write them down or work with them.
    If not done right, goals are no more than cigarette smoke, disappearing from our sight in an instant and therefore of no worth.

    People, young and old, male and female, make and lose money, rise to fame and fall from grace both in good times and bad.

    Simply put, most cannot shoulder the responsibility that their fate is in their own hands. The responsibility of that is too much for the many.

    You can either react to everything around you, like a cork amongst the waves or you can create the situations and circumstances you want in your life. It’s up to you.

    It’s SIMPLE, but granted, it’s not easy – but then nothing of value was ever achieved without effort.

    Take ownership.

    It’s all a choice.

    ………… what will yours be, today, I wonder?

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